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Love Phoebe

Question:

I’m in love with a friend who has a girlfriend – I wish him all the best and really want to let go…

Answer:

That’s beautiful for you to respect his wishes to be with someone else. And know that it’s okay for you to grieve this person as though you would a real ex-partner. Even though you never were involved romantically, it’s important to allow yourself to grieve properly. Give yourself permission to cry. I think it’s important to use journaling to clear out your mind. Write down how you feel. Give your emotions a voice and allow the energy to completely let go. Definitely incorporate meditation and when you feel as though you have let this energy go, we’re going to focus that love and attention back into yourself. Ask yourself: by being friends with this person, is it holding me back from finding my true soul mate? If the answer is yes, consciously make an effort to see this friend a little less and make sure you are getting out to meet new people a little more. The more you socialize and meet others, the easier it will be to see this friend just as a friend again. Your friendship is not lost, but it will take a bit of time. We also want to focus those loving feelings back into yourself. Remember what it is that makes you happy, and make sure you doing these things consistently! Lastly, I would look at how to manifest your soul mate! Write a list of the qualities that you want in a life partner and meditate over this energy.

Question:

How do I remove fear from the mind?

Answer:

What is fear exactly? When we are fearful of something it’s usually because we need more information. We aren’t sacred of things that we’ve done, we are fearful of those things that we haven’t done, because we don’t know what to expect, we don’t know what it means or what it involves. Our brain needs more information. Ask yourself, what is it that I fear today? Where is this fear coming from? Follow the thread of questions until you get to the core of what it is that you are fearful from, and then – challenge it! Is this fear 100% true, is it legitimate? Can you change it? Can you learn to accept it? Journal through the questions and meditate to help find clarity in your mind.

 

 

Question:

Struggling to move forward with my relationship. It feels stuck and it’s emotionally tiring.

Answer:

Where is it that you want to go? What does an ideal relationship feel like to you? Write down where you see your relationship heading in 1 month, 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 50 years. From here, have communication with your partner and talk about your future goals together. Where do they see the relationship going? How can you get from point a to b. Do you have similar goals and will this work in the long run? The more open with our communication we can be with our partner the stronger and more fulfilling your relationship will become. Listen to my manifesting meditations here for guidance.

 

Question:

How to deal with stress

Answer:

First, breathe with me! Breathe in for 1,2,3,4 and out for 1,2,3,4,5. Repeat this 3 times. Notice how you have the power to calm yourself? There are so many different ways to calm yourself but you need to be willing to do the work! Find an outlet that helps release this stress. Meditation is one, what about exercise? Dancing? Singing, cooking, gardening. Something to help bring mindfulness into your day! Now that we have a tool to help release the stress, find where this stress comes from. How can you lighten your life to de-stress? Ask yourself – what am I doing in my life that is causing me stress? How can I change this in my life? What can I do more of to be de-stressed? What can I do less of be de-stressed? You have the answers, it’s up to you to adhere to the advice you give yourself. We can only handle so much. Perhaps it’s time to put some things down and focus on giving some love back to yourself!

 

 

Question:

How to get out of financial debt?

Answer:

With any goal, we need an action plan on how to achieve it. When we break the solution down into small actionable steps, the goal doesn’t seem that gigantic. Let’s start with the full amount that you need to pay off. With your current work load, how much can you contribute to the debt? And then with this amount, how long would it take to pay the debt off? If it is still too much or too long, where can you earn more money without burning yourself out? Can you pick up an extra shift, or do a second part time job? Lastly, is there an area of your life that you can stop spending money on to make up for that financial income? And most importantly, are you being smart with your money? The debt that you have gathered, is it towards making your future a better place or have you spent this money on short lived thrills? Re-evaluate your spending and how you can overcome this debt. Overcoming debt is completely possible, but it requires determination. Mediate and/or exercise to help your stress level, and to stay focused and calm. You can do this!

 

 

Question:

Can you share your writing process? I would love to write my own stories one day!

Answer:

I would be honored! Thank you for your question about my work. Writing to me is my everything. It is my favorite thing to do. It’s the highlight of my day. I always have a few ideas of different stories running through my mind. And I’m always working on both a non-fiction and a fiction title. My favorite is story telling because as a child I loved witches and fairies and mermaids. I was always playing make believe with my friends and writing plays as a small little girl. I’ve kept a journal since I was 12 years old. With time these journal entries was less about what I did that day and more about my emotions and personal development that I learned about that experience or encounter. When it comes to writing a story, for me it comes in a few different ways. It might be the beginning of a journal entry one day, or perhaps I am surrounded with a peculiar environment and my head makes up a story about what is happening around me.

When it comes to writing a story I am most often inspired by my surroundings. Something will happen that will trigger my imagination and I just start writing. The page that I write may be the first page of the book, or somewhere in the middle or even the last page (I wrote the last page of Lost Nowhere first)! As the story evolves I see the characters clearly in my mind, and the place they are as if I was living it myself. I love love love writing fictional titles because it takes me to magical lands that I’ve always wanted to visit, and create people that I’ve always wanted to meet. It’s my own little escape from life. Once a few keys points of the story have begun, I then look at what end result I want to achieve. And slowly I start mapping out my story. This then takes on the form of chapters and I create a map of the story process. As I write and explore the story, more things naturally fall into place and as I edit (very important part of your own work), anything that doesn’t feel right, delete it.

When writing non-fiction, I like to share the knowledge that I have learned with the world. So much of this comes in an organic flow and other times I research elsewhere for ideas.

When I write, I tap into an energy greater than myself, my own understanding. I dance amongst the realms of magic and it’s difficult to want to leave!

If you’re interested in a life coaching one on one session with me, please contact me directly
or have a look at my life coaching offerings here.

And if you’d like to submit a question, use the contact form here.

Love Phoebe

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